|In a nutshell, these are my sentiments right now. Just plain ready to scream via|
However, since we got our engagement pictures back I have started designing save the dates and our invitation suite. Thankfully I have gotten really good at InDesign in my time as editor of a newspaper that uses ID for a weekly paper.
The problem? We are currently debating an adult-only reception (excluding immediate family so his few nieces and nephews can be there) but are really worried about offending people. There's a number of reasons for this.
First, our guest list is close to 250 and we are aiming for 200. Having an adult-only reception would put us just about 220 (and of course not all 220 will come).
Second, Cam's sister tells me horror stories of her wedding all the times. Kids were crying and screaming, her flower girl/ring bearer were awful, etc. Frankly, I don't wanna deal with that the day of.
Third, I won't have to worry about providing kids meal and entertainment for the reception. Our hall is really awesome, but it has limited space so finding an area for the kids would be really hard.
Lastly, we are just not entirely fond of kids. This is different when the kids are your own or close to you, but when you aren't close to any of these children they aren't nearly as cute.
We aren't sure we want to have children down the road. We've pretty much adopted the "if it happens, it happens" mentality. He's been traumatized by his mom's babysitting sometimes five or six kids at home and my younger sisters made me swear up and down that I'd never have a girl.
There are a lot of family and family friends on our guest lists that have children, and I am deathly worried about offending someone. I know it's my day and it's definitely not that I don't like their children. I think the guests that have children should get a babysitter and make a date of it.
Weddings are hard, people.