We're getting married in 25 days!!!!It is absolutely blowing my mind. Knowing this huge milestone is coming up is a weird thing to try to wrap my head around.
Planning wise all is well. The rings are out getting soldered, the final payments are
Slowly, but surely, all is coming together. Quite frankly I knew it would. I'm extremely organized, almost to a fault and hell I've had two year to plan so one would hope I'd have my stuff together.
We had our last marriage counseling session a few weeks ago. We spent the majority of it in the sanctuary planning how this would look, where this person would stand, etc. It wasn't until we were in the car on our way home when I realized what we had just done. I had planned my wedding ceremony. Right there, where we'd be standing before God in front on 230 of our closest friends and family. How huge is that?!
One remedy we found is the book our Pastor/counselor recommended, Love and Respect. The jist of it is a woman's primary need is loving/caring/compassion and a man's is respect/reverense/admiration. It's not to say women don't need respect and men don't need love, but it's the primary need like a love language.
Basically, what was so hard about marriage counseling for me was not thinking about myself first. It's a different state of mind. When you're single, it's about you; you are your primary concern. That is different for me now and I have to alter my thinking. It's hard.